Welcome the Interruptions.. Are you sure?

I have always been a list maker.  A get up and getter done  kinda gal. Making lists and then checking them off somehow became who I was. My value came from how much I got done in a day. Thus, you can imagine, when I was diagnosed with a brain tumor at the age of 35, and put on medication which completely disabled me, I had a major crisis of identity. My self-esteem plummeted.  Even though my life depended on it, I was bound and determined to hang onto my lists!  

Thankfully, my journey through that diagnosis, finding a new way of being lead me to a more joyful and peaceful space.  The BEST advice I have been given was from my new and improved husband, who continually teaches me and reminds me that I am a human being not a human doing. I have learned to go ahead and make my lists... and then "Welcome the interruptions, for that is where the miracles live". As I have allowed the list to go unchecked, the miraculous has shown up in its place!  Give it try.

The newest way to learn and practice the Being the Shift language is a Card Game

Would love your feedback on our first version of the new "Being the Shift Card Game." The newest fun way to learn and practice the Being the Shift language.

As I woke up one morning just over a week ago, the idea came to me of a card game, similar to Apples to Apples or Cards Against Humanity, that would help a person learn the Acknowledging & Encouraging language.

Still in awe of how quickly it all came together as I printed out version 1.0 yesterday morning. Linda & I had a blast playing with it.  It felt better than we imagined, so we took it to our friend Jayne's in the afternoon & shared it with her and another friend. They loved it as well.

Looking forward to playing it with some friends and hearing back on your experience's as we are hoping you will play with it & give us your fresh suggestions & opinions.  A child's version is already peculating in my mind.

It does require printing and cutting to experience the full impact of actually playing it. 

Downloadable for free right now at: http://www.BeingTheShift.com/

25 Years of Research Reveals #1 Most Valuable Gift We Can Give

Looking for the Best Gift to Give Someone you Care About?  

A 25 year research study reveals the #1 answer.  

Researchers and physiologist Dinkmeyer and Losoncy  followed the lives of couples and families for 25 years and their conclusion concurred with that of eminent psychiatrist Rudolf Dreikurs. 

Encouragement is the key ingredient for success
in all positive professional and personal relationships.

Of the myriad of things parents & partners did, trying to help their children & each other, Encouraging words created the best outcome in their child’s and their partners life.

Mastering the skill of using encouraging words 

is one of the greatest gifts you can offer to the people in your life.

First, it’s critical that you are clear on exactly what encouragement is:

• Encouragement is positive feedback that focuses primarily on effort or improvement rather than outcomes.
• Encouraging happens through valuing and accepting others as they are, having a belief in the innate capacity of people to overcome the challenges of life.
• Encouragement is recognizing, accepting, and conveying faith in another for the mere fact that he or she exists. They do not have to be “the best” to be a full-fledged human being.  Your focus and comments are such that you help them see their assets, strengths, resources and potential -- in contrast to their deficits, weaknesses and limitations.
• Encouragement requires dropping the urge to analyze what’s really going on or trying to solve the situation for another. It is about sharing your confidence in them and helping them regain their sense of perspective and confidence in their ability to get through and rise above life’s challenges.

You will discover that a word of Encouragement during a time when someone feels they have failed is worth more than an hour of praise after a victory.

Here are a few examples of Encouraging words.

• I believe in you.
• I know you did your best.
• You can make it.
• While everything didn't come off as you had hoped, I felt your effort and it's all going to work out.
• I can see you have made progress.
• Knowing you, I’m sure you will do well.
• You can only learn by trying and I feel like you always give a great effort.
• I can see you have really thought this through.
• That’s a challenge and I’m confident you’ll make it.

For additional details on using Encouraging words, download the Free e-book 

“Being The Shift” at www.BeingTheShift.com  

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References

Dinkmeyer, D., & Losoncy, L. (1996). The skills of encouragement. Delray Beach, FL: St. Lucie Press.

Dreikurs, R. (1971). Social equality. Chicago: Alfred Adler Institute.